- The lack of demonstrated empathy
- a lack of social or emotional reciprocity
- people with AS are not usually withdrawn around others; they approach others, even if awkwardly, for example by engaging in a one-sided, long-winded speech about a favorite topic while being oblivious to the listener's feelings or reactions, such as signs of boredom or haste to leave.
- This social awkwardness has been called "active but odd".
- This failure to react appropriately to social interaction may appear as disregard for other people's feelings, and may come across as insensitive.
- People with Asperger syndrome display behavior, interests, and activities that are restricted and repetitive and are sometimes abnormally intense or focused (he becomes obsessed with a subject and needs to know everything about it. Then he moves on to another obsession).
I now know that he cant help the way he acts. I cant believe that there are others that act this way as well. It's just strange to finally be able to put a finger on what he has. My brother is a very smart guy, so a person would never think that he might have some sort of autism. I am dumbfounded. I wish I could share this information with him, but my husband thinks that it may offend him and come across as if I'm judging him. I don't know, I mean would you want to know if you had this?
My mother came to my house this morning, and we didn't speak. Fine by me. Its better not to talk thus we wont get into fights.
Pierced:
So as I was going to mention before, I got the girls ears pierced on Saturday. They cried for a little bit, but now it doesn't seem to bother them. Soleil is the dramaqueen though- she started crying when the doctor put the alcohol on her ears! I told her if she thinks she's uncomfortable now, just wait. At first, they looked so strange with earrings, but now I think they look adorable! You know, I never really thought about it before- but piercing your child's ears is very tribal. I know Americans don't really consider themselves tribal, but think about it. Putting a hole through their little ears?
I mean, what makes it different than putting a plate in your lip:
or wearing an insane amount of bars on your neck to elongate it?:
Pierced ears:
Soleil
BTW- The girls have been waking up every 3 hours to eat lately. I want to shoot myself in the foot! Maybe they are going through a growth spurt?
On another note, I cannot wait until my "vacation" at the end of may. I don't know if it's really a vacation when you take kids, but I am super excited to introduce the girls to their family.
I leave you with this:
5 comments:
They say a lot of people go through their whole lives undiagnosed.
Most people with aspergers are VERY SMART. A lot of our technical and computer people have aspergers. They don't have the social skills but excel in lots of other areas.
I agree with your husband. I don't think you should say anything to your brother or your mother. I think you should share it with your blogger buddies and your husband.
It would serve no purpose at this point in his life.
The girls look great.
As I mentioned last time, I've taught several kids with Asperger's, and I've taught several others with more severe autism...almost all of them were VERY smart. I'm not saying all kids with autism are smart, but most I've encountered seem to be. I believe there has been some speculation that Albert Einstein may have been somewhere on the autism spectrum...social dummy but pure genius.
Kids born now are usually diagnosed early in life if they have any form of autism. Back when we were kids, it seemed that almost no one was. So, they say that there are so many more autistic kids these days, and maybe there are, but I'm convinced that there were lots back then too and they just weren't diagnosed...they were just looked at as weirdos.
Believe me, don't tell your brother you think he has AS. The treatment for something like this is to be worked with repetitively for years and years starting in early childhood. Teachers/professionals/parents make them aware of their setbacks and remind them over and over how they should be acting, responding, and how they can relate better to peers. Your brother cannot get the past thirty years back. He can't go back to childhood and be taught how to behave. I don't think an AS person could make a lot of change as an adult, as it's much harder to make changes when you've been living this way for 30 years...not to mention that he'd probably deny he has the issue, and your mom would probably also not be happy with the diagnosis.
An aside...if he ever has children, they have a very high chance of having AS or some other form of autism as well (that is, if he actually has AS). It's very hereditary.
Wow, how amazing is that about your brother ... we'll have to call her Dr Chas!
Seriously, I think if you told your mum or bro, it would go down like a ton of bricks. But also, I don't know if I could keep that to myself.
.. Pics of tribal women were HILARIOUS, pics of Soeil and
Neve were gorgeous. Their ears look great!
PS Re: your dream ... I wouldn't think it was weird if you rang, ha!
PPS I will have Monkey 20th May, 2 days before you go, yay!
The girls look sooo cute!!! And yes, that is an Old Navy dress. We love Old Navy around these parts. I have a hard time spending money on clothes when I know she's going to outgrow them in about a week! Or at least, I HOPE she will.
I'm sorry about your mom troubles. But your girls will NEVER feel that way about you because you will NEVER act that way toward them. You worked so hard for your girls to even get here, and I know you'll never forget that!
Hi Maya! (great name:)
The girls look soooo cute! Who pierced their ears? Was it at the pediatrician? They look so cute and they're getting so big!
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