Two years ago I read a book about mother and daughters and their relationships. It really opened my eyes to why daughter/ mothers act and respond to one another the way we do. The book is called " You're Wearing That?: Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation"

After reading it, I got along with my mother for maybe two weeks before our relationship turned sour again. I lent the book to my former manager, and she lost it. She finally purchased another book for me (over a year later!)and gave it to me yesterday- just in time!


I started reading it again. If not for the relationship I have with my mother, then for the relationship I will have with my daughters. It really makes you understand why mothers say certain things and why daughters react the way they do. I really encourage every woman to buy it.



Moving on.. yesterday my boss was out of the office so I left work a bit early. It was a beautiful day here in New York, so we decided to take the baby carriers out of their boxes and walk with the girls. So much easier with carriers! My husband took Soleil and I took Neve. We were going to walk one or two blocks, but ended up walking all the way to my parents house. The girls were so captivated, staring at the trees and the people in an upright position. Soleil kept sticking her tongue out- its a new thing she does.



My husband and I were discussing last night that we each seemed to be more attached to a certain twin. I hate talking about it at all, because in no way do I want anyone to think that I love one of my daughters more than the other- because I don't. I just seem to gravitate towards Neve. I don't know if it is because she was the smaller baby (which many books on twins say happens when one twin is smaller), or because her temperament is easier. I just feel like Soleil is very high maintenance/ drama mama and nothing that I do or say calms her. But when her daddy picks her up, she instantly quiets down. When he comes home she smiles at him and flails her arms and legs- something she doesnt do with me. Neve does though.

So we each decided that we need to spend more time with the other twin. I feel guilty just writing it.



BTW- I managed to raise $500.00 from all my wonderful co-workers, and WONDERFUL/ AMAZING blog readers! You guys are so awesome. I have never felt more passionate about a cause before in my life. I feel a sense of accomplishment knowing that because I shyly sent out an email another $500 is added to the MOD research. I know that it is just a drop in a bucket, but it's something. I am thankful for my daughters, the loves of my lives. I am thankful for the MOD because if it weren't for the organization- who knows what would have been with my little girls.

If you haven't yet contributed and would like to help the March of Dimes (me trying not to solicit but failing horribly) please click on the link to the right!

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